The Worst Christmas Gift Ever



Posted: Saturday, December 06, 2008

by Karma Hart

After 12 yrs of marriage. Of course we had our ups & downs and passed through many hard times.

Which is supposed to make you closer and stronger as a couple. Right?

Well... we ended up separated & living in separate places. We did keep up communications and went out sometimes. I thought we were working on the issues trying to find that place to reconcile.

Then Dec 23 rd I came home from the store and a strange man was waiting on my doorstep. I asked him " Can I help you?" He just smiled and handed me an envelope, then left without a word. I went inside & set down my packages and then opened the envelope. It was divorce papers. Without a word in conversation about it my husband had decided to end it in as cruel a way as he could. I tried to call him but he would never answer. That's the worst Christmas of my life & I've never been able to celebrate Christmas again. I go through the motions when family arrives but there is no cheer in my heart. It's been yrs now & I'm still numb inside. I think it was a pretty cruel thing for him to do to me, serving the papers right at Christmas time... but worse is what I've done to myself. Only people who can scale walls or blast them can get in to me. My heart is locked in a strong safe and my emotions are controlled. I don't think i could with stand another blow like this last one so I've stayed single and become reclusive. I did date for a bit, but the lies told me were great & never a true gift of Love has come my way.

Gifts that I give are selected with love and I try to pay attention to what each person seems to be interested in. Then I select gifts or make them on an individual basis. Each person is individual and should be treated as unique.

Maybe again in this life I'll find love again.

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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)
» left by Anonymous
 3 years 166 days ago.
What a terrible experience, you deserve much better! I am praying that this holiday season will be a much better one for you than any in the past.
» left by June from Wa 3 years 166 days ago.
Thank you
» left by Jeff Downing
 3 years 164 days ago.
7 fans.
It is bad enough that someone we love wants to "end it", but there is a great deal of added pain when it is done in such a horrible way. My "ex" chose the night before our wedding anniversary to call and invite me to breakfast, the following morning.
I spent the night in anticipation of a reconciliation (after all she had picked the anniversary of our marriage) for a get together. 
 
When she arrived all happy, I was further convinced of good things to come, but her "joy" was in sharing that she had fallen in love and was moving in with the man. Like you, I thought her timing was horrible and the pain was unbelievable. I went through the period of time where I could not stand to see people in love, and I placed  the walls up to protect myself, but in the end I found someone worth taking a chance with and moved on.
 
We have now been married 17 years, and what we have is far beyond what I could have had with my "ex". I now thank God for what happened and consider the pain to have been a small price for what is going on now.
 
I suspect that the person that marries you will find far more love than most, and that your "ex" will make you feel a level of gratitude and appreciation for your spouse that few can ever know.
 
Open your eyes and your heart will open also. 
 
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